Hurried Homemaker

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September 24th, 2012 by Rhiana

Kid Rewards

We do not give our kids an allowance or reward for doing “chores” around the house. Matter of fact, we rarely even use that word. It is our opinion that our kids should participate in the upkeep of the home because, well, they live here too. We feel that we are teaching our kids to contribute to the running of a home – and this will serve them well as they have roommates and, eventually, spouses. Each kid has different responsibilities that they have to take care of. They also have several that we require that they do together, as a team.

We also do not reward for “good” behavior. We feel that if you only behave to earn a reward, you aren’t doing it for the right reasons. We strive to raise our kids to WANT to do the right thing, and to do it. No reward needed.

That being said, we DO like to reward for above-and-beyond help and exceptionally helpful behavior. Sometimes it is just a “Thank you so much for your extra work this week. We really noticed it and it was awesome to have all that extra help! You rock!” Sometimes, we grab a frozen yogurt and tell them how thankful we are over a sweet treat. And sometimes, it is a $5 gift card to Target.

The gift card is definitely one of my favorites! I always keep two on hand and love to see their faces light up when I dole them out. Even more fun? Watching them trying to choose how to spend their precious $5! And, of course, it is awesome to see math skills at work in a real life situation.

What is your special way of thanking your kids?

 

This post is not sponsored by Target. However, it is fully endorsed by my kids – who have just successfully chosen some cool toys with their recent aquisition of a $5 Target gift card each.

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2 Responses to “Kid Rewards”
  1. Wow, great post, and timely for me and my wife. Thanks for sharing what works for you, and your reasoning behind it. We do give our son an allowance for chores he does around the house, and are…ahem…guilty of sometimes rewarding him for “good behavior.” However, it doesn’t seem to be working that well, and we are reevaluating the whole rewards system we have set up.

    I really like the idea of giving a treat (yeah, my son loves frozen yogurt!), or giving a $5 Target reward card (what kid doesn’t like one of those?). Thanks again for sharing, and I look forward to reading future posts.

  2. Irene Froehlich says

    J is definitely not old enough for an allowance, but when she is, we will be doing it in an effort to educate her on fiscal responsibility. This economy is full of adults who don’t know how to manage their money. The way we will likely do allowance will be to set aside money annually like this: $1,200 Annually budgeted ($100 a month). This money needs to be used for all “unnecessary” school supplies, clothes, shoes, toys/gadgets, and fun activities. By doing errands around the house, she will be contributing to our family and therefore we will contribute to feeding her and putting a roof over her head. By getting A’s in school, she will be able to earn extra bonus $ because it’s her “job” to do well in school. If she get’s C’s school, we will deduct “allowance” money as a consequence.

    This will help her learn to manage her finances and what is important to her. If clothes are important to her, then she will learn that something else will have to go. If going to see movies or toys/gadgets/iPhones/Computers are important, then she can learn to save her money from month to month. Etc. We plan to put all this money into a bank account for her to manage at an early age. She will need parent approval to withdraw money from the bank account and will need to provide receipts for what she has purchased.

    As for rewarding her financially for having a good attitude and good behavior, that will never happen. That’s what the rod of discipline is for. :) But since J is just 5- all of this is neither here nor there at the moment. J likes to “do the right thing for the sake of doing the right thing” right now so I’m counting my blessings! :p

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